when i first realised im a lesbian i wish someone had told me that theres gonna be times where you hate yourself, where you hate your lesbianism and everything related to it. it might be when you first realise youre lesbian, it might be when youve been a lesbian for years already and thought you had come to peace with it, it might be anywhen. and its okay, its normal. society hates us for being lesbians, at times it might feel like everyone hates us for being lesbians, no matter how accepting they are, and that hatred cant leave us unphased. i wish people had told me that i was gonna try everything just to not “have to be” a lesbian, that i was gonna id as male and ace and bi and a thousand microlabels, and most importantly, i wish someone had told me that its gonna be okay. that this hatred for yourself might creep up on you from time to time, but that in the end youre gonna be happy with yourself, youre gonna be part of a loving community and youre gonna find people who love you.
so, to all the lesbians who currently hate themselves: its gonna be okay. you wont feel like this forever, one day youre gonna feel at peace with yourself. just hang in there